How true is this ?

[SteadyEddie]

Watching my Mother slowly go downhill with terminal cancer, how true is this that I found on the net ?????

Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body.
But rather to skid in sideways beer in one hand, fag in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming
"WOO HOO - what a ride!"

[NinjaMad]

sorry to hear that mate, but the quote is SPOT ON

[harriebird]

with a 43 year old bike mad uncle who is hopefully just about in remission from Burkitts lymphoma i've got to agree with the quote and i know he would. it makes a bust thumb seem a bit piffling really :grin2

dont know what to say about your mum really but my thoughts are with you and your family.

[essexgirl]

No words can make situations like this any easier,but take comfort in the fact that we all wish they could.
Love the quote, live life to the full then!

[kasandrich]

I hate to preach, but I have my own religious beliefs which I will gladly share if anyone wishes to discuss further, but suffice to say that I fully believe there is more to life than the world we see around us, this is a training ground where we are sent to experience things, unfortunately your dear old Mums current experience is pain and suffering, and yours is to watch someone close to you in pain and suffering. Take comfort from the thought that it is preparing her for a better place.

You have to know what black is to appreciate white.

Your quote about sliding in sideways beer in one hand etc, etc, fits in perfectly, thats about experiencing things, and living life to the full, life is precious, don't waste it.

[/preach]

Sorry about that, I don't know what came over me!

[DoodleBug]

That quote is my mantra :)

As for your mum, I wont even try to say something to make it better, not possible. However thank your lucky stars that you have whatever time there is to enjoy being with her and making her as happy as possible.

I feel for you, atb.

K.

[MickyGixer]

Here Here.:reading Thoughts with you and your Mum Eddie.....:)

[Becky B]

All i can say is atleast u can spend precious time with ur mum the best woman in ur life, like my mum her mum died of cancer but her and her sisters had time to spend with her where as my dads mum had a heart attack and died at the dinner table on boxing day i was only 13. Sometimes life is so unfair! My thoughts are with u make the most of the time and look after others around u like ur dad. It affected both my grandads badly and the ones that seem strong aren't.

[SteadyEddie]

Me old Mum is a rock to me and we have a lot in common, we deal with things with humour, may sound strange but she has always had a dry humour and even though she is ill she still likes a laugh, I told her not to spend too much as it's my inheritance,, brought a smile to her face, getting her a wheelchair tomorrow as she cant walk far now, still drives her bleedin car, just cant walk !
When she found out last week that it is terminal she told me very calmley " it was not good news" understatement of the year !
Theres life in the old bugger yet, just hope quality of life stays with it as she has refused anymore treatment
I am going to try my hardest to get her on the back of my bike while she still can, dunno why just something that sprang to mind

[Becky B]

As for refusing treatment good idea it just makes u worse! As did my nan and as for going out on bike brilliant idea! Out on bike for a cruise pub lunch give her a day to remember

[DoodleBug]

I am going to try my hardest to get her on the back of my bike while she still can, dunno why just something that sprang to mind

If you want an honour guard just say the word mucker.

[NinjaMad]

I am going to try my hardest to get her on the back of my bike while she still can, dunno why just something that sprang to mind

Go for it mate sounds great idea sure she would love it, hope ya doing ok concidering. thoughts with ya all mate All the best

[fall off]

i know how you feel mate , lost my Mum to that "C" word a few yrs ago.
just enjoy every moment you can , which know doubt you will.

best of luck .

[falcophil]

as above eddie, i had 3 years with my mum from being told she had a brain tumour, lots of pub lunchs and visits whenever possible.
just make the best of your time.

[Webby]

Enjoy every moment.

Just my thought - don't dwell on any decision she has made about treatment. It is her choice and "Mum knows best" as we are all told.

Dull note - when the inevitable happens, look upon it all as a great gift that you were a part of her life and remember all the good and maybe some of the bad so that you celebrate everything about her life.

My thoughts are with you and Mum even though we have never had the pleasure of meeting.

[SteadyEddie]

Thanks for all the supportive thoughts

[sniffer dagenham]

You don’t know how long it has taken me to Write this.

I’ve been there with my mum. As Falconphil said enjoy the moments you can cherish for a long time. I lost mine my mum almost 8 years ago and still think about her everyday. We will never for get, as they say. Even the day she does pass away I can guarantee you will still not be ready for it. Just make sure she doesn’t do what mine done. To make sure I remember her until my dying day she died on the 10th my birthday is 14th and funeral was on the 18th March. So if I don’t respond to any wishes of happy birthday on here you might just know why.


Try to remember everything that has since made you smile from bathing in the kitchen sink(some might remember that) to getting your first telling off for doing something childish. Sorry we were children!! Bringing your first girlfriend home all those growing up things that you had to do. Remember mum was always there to help. And tell you off in the next breath.


That’s enough from me as I need to go and dry the tears now.

All the best and give her what every she needs or wants. It might be the last chance to put that smile on her face.

[Loz]

Lost my old man to cancer a few years back, and agree with all about enjoying the moments.

As for quotes, I always liked this one myself

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but
by the moments that take our breath away."

[NinjaMad]

Lost my old man to cancer a few years back, and agree with all about enjoying the moments.

As for quotes, I always liked this one myself

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but
by the moments that take our breath away."
Thats also a **** hot quote

[DoGbOt]

Erm........... Wow....... i haven't spoken to my mum in almost 2 months...... i'm half tempted to pick up the phone after reading this lil lot!.....

Thought s are with every1!! good luck guy's

[beanboy]

Eddie,
Like the rest I lost my mum to the big C word about 3 years ago and it still hurts to this day. Thing is due to being a complete twat I never spoke to her for 10 years before I got in contact with her, only to spend the last two remining years of her life getting to know her again. but what a 2 year stint, I can honestly say I loved my mum and her passing still rips me up, but like others say enjoy the time with her, do what ever pleases her, tell her you love her, talk about what your plans are when shes gone and let her know not to worry about you. Its not much but we all feel for you as this is the most difficult thing to comprehend. If you need to talk talk, if you need to rant then rant, cry if you need to cry, but believe in the fact that theres a lot of people among us who will pick you up when your down and listen when you need a freind. The doors always open mate. So give your mum a spin on the bike, as Doodle said if you need a convoy to accompany you jut post it up, we will be there.
So send your mum our love, try not to let it get to you and remember the good times passed and to come.

[badco]

like a lot of others on here ime finding this a hard post to reply to .
i lost both parents to C within 2 months of each other we knew me dad had lung cancer but me mum was a shock just 2 months later(its also why i gave up smoking) so enjoy the time ya still got and as been said before if ya need someone to listen someone to shout at or someone to sit with ya
there wont be many essex bikers will say no
all the best mate

[SteadyEddie]

There are so many good replys,,, thanks